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What the heck is RSD?
And why am I on an emotional rollercoaster?
When I first heard the term “Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria” (also referred to as RSD) I didn’t immediately resonate with it… until I started paying closer attention to my people-pleasing tendencies. Yeah. RSD is a part of my life too.
First identified by William Dodson, RSD is a highly emotional response to perceived or real criticism, rejection, or failure. People with RSD often experience intense emotional reactions, such as sadness, anxiety, or anger, in response to situations where they feel rejected or judged. These feelings can be overwhelming and might lead to a strong desire to avoid situations where they could face potential rejection.
A few signs it might be RSD:
Heightened Emotional Responses: If you notice that you experience intense emotional reactions to seemingly small or trivial events, it could be a sign of RSD. Criticism, rejection, or even minor setbacks may trigger overwhelming feelings that are difficult to control.
Fear of Rejection: RSD often leads to a heightened fear of rejection and criticism. You might find yourself avoiding certain situations or withdrawing from social interactions to prevent potential negative feedback or judgment.
Emotional Resilience Fluctuations: Individuals with RSD may experience emotional resilience that varies greatly depending on the situation. You might feel confident and capable in one moment, but a minor perceived criticism can instantly erode your self-assurance.
Negative Self-Perception: RSD can lead to negative self-perception and a sense of inadequacy. You might be overly self-critical, attributing mistakes or failures to personal shortcomings rather than situational factors.
Social Avoidance: Due to the fear of rejection, you might find yourself avoiding social situations or withdrawing from relationships to protect yourself from potential emotional pain.
If you’re struggling with this - one of the best things you can do is to educate yourself. So.. TA-DA! You’re feeling better already, aren’t you?
🔹A few other tips: seek support, challenge negative thoughts, breathing techniques, grounding techniques, and journaling. You’re so very welcome 😘
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